Sometimes it is really hard for us to even imagine losing a dear friend or wealth which we may have held as precious in our hearts. However, if we thinkdeep
within, we may realize why it has happened in the past, why it is happening now, and finally, why it will happen in the future. There is a wonderful proverb in Buddhism which says: “Gathering is the beginning of parting, cultivating is the beginning of reducing, and rebirth is the beginning of death.” Such occurrences are simply the way of the world, and demonstrate impermanence. If we do not let our attachment grow, then we may not feel that it is so difficult when we have to face such situations in our daily lives. Thus, in my opinion, we just have to learn how to say goodbye and move on with our lives, like a deer after grazing, will just move on to another place.
Practicing mindfulness and awareness is one of the most effective tools for making our beautiful and precious lives more meaningful and beneficial. We cannot let our crazy and unsettled mind lead the way. Sometimes our untamed mind tend to behave like a wild monkey. Then we may invite big troubles to ourselves. Therefore, it is always beneficial and logical to be mindful, alert, and patient, which will at least guarantee us calmness and tranquility in the near future.
Balance is the buzz word of today’s world, and I think this word has some logical and purposeful meanings associated with it. In my opinion, happiness and suffering are a natural part of our lives. If we can find a balance between pain and joy, then our lives can still be very beautiful and peaceful, even in the midst of a chaotic lifestyle. One thing that we all have to be aware of is that there will always be some who admire us and some who criticize us. As such, when we are happy, we should not let our joy overwhelm us, because this joyride may lead us to the suffering of change. At the same time we should not let our pain make us depressed, because this is just one of the rough patches on our journey and is temporary. If we can handle both happiness and pain in a skillful way, no matter where we live, then we may find happiness and satisfaction in our lives.
Today we are living in a difficult yet ever-changing environment, and there are different expectations from individuals in order to make their lives successful and pleasant. In my opinion, it is entirely okay to dream about our goals, but f...or our part, it is also logical and wise to think deeply because high expectations and unrealistic goals may cause us to lose what we have worked so hard to achieve. Even though we may work very hard and our intentions may be perfect, things may still go either way. Trying our best with realistic expectations will at least enable us to accept whatever the outcome without feeling heavy inside our hearts. There are many ways we can learn things in our lives and one of the best ways is to learn from our own experiences, because we have all gone through ups and downs which can really teach us valuable lessons in our lives. There are no easy fixes and we cannot expect miracles to happen in everyday life, however, if we learn from our own experiences and from others, we can at least hope for a smoother landing in our chaotic lives.